I asked this earlier, but need more answers…….
What do you call your mother in-law? What would you do in this situation?
My husband and I have been married for 5 years now. He had a child from a teenage relationship. He was 18. He chose to not be a part of the child’s life, which was fine with his mother (my mother in-law) and the child’s mother. His mother never tried to be a part of the child’s life as well. Well, now that the child is 8, the childs mother is married, we have chosen to allow the step father to adopt the child. The story goes way deeper, it was a real messy situation. Anyway, now, now that we spent over $ 2000.00 for the adoption to be completed, my mother in-law decides to be spiteful and but her nose in and starts a relationship with the child. She shows no effort in seeing my children or my husband and I, but she contacts the other one a thousand times a week, sends her gifts for the hell of it, visitis her etc. meanwhile, we live 10 min. away from my mother in-law, I’m a stay at home mom, and she never showed effort like that before. My husband and I would have never paid and completed the adoption if we knew this was going to happen. Needless to say when we confronted my mother in-law, she turned around and said nothing but nasty comments about me and told me I don’t even have respect for her nor her son, because I can’t even call her “MOM”. My husband never had a problem with me not feeling comfortable with calling her mom. Needless to say we haven’t talked to her for three months now. Part of me feels bad, but part of me is at peace. I don’t want to sound like a snot or anything, but part of me really feels that she is Jealous of my husband and I. We bought our first house a few years ago, and have a lot going for us in life at our young age, and she sits back and rents and is on section 8 and instead of being proud of her son, it seems like she grew hate for him, as crazy as that sounds. The story has much more detail, but that’s a sum of it. What would you do? Continue not having a relationship with her? Is it wrong that I don’t call her mom?
I forgot to mention, when I first started dating my husband, I tried to push him to start having a realtionship with the child. However, after numerous court cases, I was able to see why he didn’t want to. The family is a really bad family, crime etc. The childs mothers brother (child uncle) is in prison for life because of a huge murder that he committed which invloved three children and the parents, also the mother her self has been in jail. They are just a bad family, and he didn’t want that kind of atmosphere around our kids. After six years and a few events of proof, I started seeing where he was coming from. Mothers have the choice to abort their childen (which I am not at all for) however, if they have the choice, why can’t a father have the choice to let a step father (more of her class) adopt her? My mother in-law was NEVER apart of the child’s life nor put effort in being until we finalized the adoption. That to me is wrong……
and please don’t say it’s none of my business, i’m married……………………….