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OK, this is a very long story.

I am 14, and I live in Alabama. My dad (who I lived with alone at the time) and I lived in Michigan. He sent me to live my grandparents down in ALabama until he could move down. This happened about 2 years ago. He never could move down due to problems selling the house, etc…

Eventually, my mom moved down, and I lived with her. I saw my dad semi-frequently (once every few months for about a week at a time)…and it hit him hard. My dad has been severely depressed since I moved down. Me and my dad still have a very strong relationship, much stronger than my relationship with my mom or anyone else in my family…

After school ended this summer, I went up to spend this summer in Michigan. I soon grew “attached” to being around my dad, and when the time came to go back down to Alabama in late July, I decided to stay up in Michigan until just before school started.

Now, I’m faced with a dilemma. I don’t know whether to stop living in Alabama and go back to living up here or going back down to Alabama. Staying up here would definitely be the best thing for me to do when it comes to my well-being and my dads well-being, but it’s a huge step to take, and there’s no going back. If it means anything, Im closer to my family up here.

First of all, I’m not all that popular at my school. I am friends with many “popular” people, but I don’t really play sports, nor am I in extracurricular clubs, so I’m not a really popular guy…I have maybe 60 friends in a class of 240, and I talk about 150 of the them. I know about 3 people up here, who are old friends.

Can you just give your opinion about this situation? I’m not getting any sleep, I can’t, all I do is think about this.

Maybe it’s better I got this off my chest…I just really need some help fast, seeing as I leave tomorrow to go back down to Alabama (the tickets are refundable).


7 Thoughts on What should I do? ASAP Please?
  1. Reply
    Lorenzo AMDG
    November 25, 2011 at 12:49 pm

    just take it like a man and go with the flow dude…

    don’t whine, whining are for whimps.

  2. Reply
    November 25, 2011 at 1:38 pm

    Why are you making this decision on your own? You are only 14! Have you talked with your parents? It’s pretty obvious that you want to stay in Michigan. But be aware — your dad might not just be depressed because he’s not with you, he might be DEPRESSED. And living with a person suffering with depression isn’t easy at all.

    Other things to consider — living conditions. Is your dad’s house in good shape? Does he make enough money? Or is your living situation better in Alabama?

    Talk it over with your parents. Good luck.

  3. Reply
    November 25, 2011 at 1:41 pm

    yea… this was in health and had “asap” in the question… so i thought it mattered.

    just shut up and go with it

  4. Reply
    November 25, 2011 at 2:30 pm

    Don’t listen to the guy above me, if you really wanna stay, just stay in Michigan! You’ll regret it if you don’t. Talk it through with your parents, they’ll understand, it’s not a decision for you alone to make.
    Good luck!

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    November 25, 2011 at 2:42 pm

    You should stay with your father if he really means that much to you.. imagine you can never see your father agian and talk to him until a long time! What would you do? you should stay with your father for a little while longer, and tell your mom if they could move back together, and stay with your father, cuhz i wish i had a strong connection with one of my family members.. and if i did, ill always be with them forever=D

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    Andrew L
    November 25, 2011 at 3:38 pm

    Stay in Michigan if this is what both you and your father want.

    You say you are not popular, yet you have 63 friends. Believe me, 63 friends IS popular! I had five friends at school.

  7. Reply
    November 25, 2011 at 4:21 pm

    Life is a long journey. The present is only a part of it. To succeed in life you have to make hard decisions or go along with the decisions made by those concerned.
    Just now you have to continue your education in a good institution,work hard for a bright future. Don’t worry about relationships and friends–time enough to think about all that after you are settled in life.
    Friends!you have more friends than I have ever had! So move to Alabama–make your career–that way you will be a source of joy to your parents.
    Good Luck! Be calm.

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