Please no, “It’s not God’s plan/immoral/etc.” answers… Not what I’m concerned about.
I’ve been married 11 years. He is very sweet, buys me gifts, but LIES and cost us over $ 100K with a business that he constantly LIED about. 6 months ago he became a long haul trucker with the expectation to do local after 6-12 months. I had told him 1 more major lie, expenditure, etc. and we would probably be done. So he becomes an owner/operator (i.e. signs a lease to purchase a big rig truck) and commits to at least 2 years of long haul without asking me then LIES to me for 4 months. He’s said he’s sorry, but he always does and then does his own thing and LIES. We own our home but are VERY upside down so can’t sell and feel like because of it, I can’t leave now though would have except for that.
He’s only home about 36 hours every 6 weeks and this will go on for about 2-3 years more due to his buying the truck. I don’t trust him nor want to (been trying for 7 years and just keep getting hurt). I love him, but more like a friend than as a husband. It was recently mentioned by a friend that I should maybe consider a boy toy – nothing emotional but just someone to take care of the physical loneliness. Due to who I am considering, my husband would not find out and would be a safe relationship. What are your thoughts?