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Need your opinion on a letter sent home from school from 1st grade music teacher, to all kids in 1st and 2nd?
Hi, this letter just hit me the wrong way and I am not one to start trouble but I am seriously thinking of going to the principle with this.
Starts out saying when the Spring Show will be for 1st and 2nd grade which is at 6:30pm on a Thursday. Telling how hard the kids worked and da da da. Next paragraph word for word
“I need willing student participants for this show. I want the kids that will do their best and want to sing. If your child doesn’t want to participate, then I don’t want him or her to participate either. This may seem harsh, but it only takes one person to ruin a wonderful experience for someone else. Please ask your child if they want to participate before filling out this form . Please understand that if your child doesn’t participate in this spring show, his or her final score for music may be negatively affected.”

How fair and rude is this? I think for 1st grade some of these kids won’t have a choice wether they attend or not. It should be extra credit
3 minutes ago – 3 days left to answer.
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also, if they do not want to sing then isn’t there more than singing that makes a show go on. Why can’t they hand out programs or help with the stage and such? My dd is singing this is not why it upset me I just think its wrong.
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Also, they have an OPTION? of purchasing a $ 10 t-shirt that all of the classmates are wearing. IN THE 1ST GRADE! and they are singing 50 nifty united states by ray charles

16 Thoughts on Rude Letter? From school to all kids, 1st and 2nd grade music?
  1. Ashley- Advocate for Christ
    November 14, 2011 at 9:29 pm

    Hmmm. This letter contradicts itself. It says that they don’t want unwilling participants, but if your child doesn’t do it, they might get a low grade.

    I would take this to the principal.

    If the teacher wants all the students dressed alike, the shirts should be provided and parent’s shouldnt be forced into buying one so their kids are not left out.

    Good luck!

  2. Willow
    November 14, 2011 at 10:01 pm

    No, it’s not fair and it’s contradicting.
    On the one hand if they don’t want to sing then don’t but then the will fail. For 1st graders? harsh
    I would voice your opinion to the principal…
    also they shouldn’t make any one pay for a tshirt-there are some that cann not afford it and then feel left out

  3. =) Cutie Pie (=
    November 14, 2011 at 10:05 pm

    She is a very harsh teacher. I would definetly go up to the principal and explain to him or her that you dont believe its fair for first graders to be treated this way. What if the kid doesnt want to participate?.. she going to fail them!?! that is no way fair.
    I hope the principal does something about this.
    Best of luck!

  4. ♪♫ I rule punk-rock! ♫♪
    November 14, 2011 at 10:06 pm

    That is not fair and highly rude!

  5. candiie_gurl1020
    November 14, 2011 at 10:33 pm

    Oh i would be pretty upset too! My mom used to be a first grade teacher and her school had a musical kind of like this. It should be something fun for first and second graders not just about some crazy music teacher wanting to make sure her show is perfect. I would definetly bring this up to the principle. Im sure there are going to be other angry parents also. I mean come on their in first grade! they dont need to be worrying about singing perfectly. These kinds of things should be about having fun and learning. This music teacher seems to be setting a pretty negative example. She should have thought of something else they could do besides just singing instead of just leaving them out completly Goodluck!

  6. slushpuppie86
    November 14, 2011 at 10:38 pm

    umm ya i would be offended maybe its a new teacher who is trying to make her new shoe perfect but come on they are little kids. i mean ya someone might forget a word or two or lord the whole thing when they see a whole crowd of ppl staring at them with cameras flashing. and if they have the option to not do this then why would their grade be affected (s)he makes it sound like its optional but then says their grade will suffer so its not really an option they forcing the child to do this. ya i mean if the child gets up there and starts cursing and flipping the bird i could understand why they would get upset but what stage show in the history of time professional or an educational thing has ran smoothly its part of the show hence the phrase “the show most go on” i would march my big pregnant self up there and talk to the principal in person that way you can tell if hes blowing smoke or if he really is going to do something. and about the shirt thing why cant the parents send the kid to school w a white t shirt and they decorate it themselves what 1st or 2nd grader wouldnt love to tye dye their own shirt lord im 21 and i still get a kick out of tye dying. $ 10 is a lot for a shirt they are only going to wear once. and what about the parents of the kids who cant afford it i mean if i was a 1st grader and i knew i didnt have a matching shirt i wouldn’t even want to go. so not only is this child not having an alike shirt as everyone else but the grade could suffer.

  7. Lisa
    November 14, 2011 at 11:13 pm

    Ok…things like this were required attendance when I was in school. Why do the kids get a choice to attend or not? That doesn’t make sense. Heck, if given the choice to get up in front of a bunch of people and sing, i’d definately have chosen NO! The letter is quite odd. I don’t think it’s rude though. And the optional t-shirt that all children will wear is strange as well. I would say it should be mandatory, but you shouldn’t force a parent to spend $ 10 on a shirt if they don’t have the money. But who wants their kid to stand out due to not having the shirt b/c they couldn’t afford it?

    November 14, 2011 at 11:47 pm

    If any give child does not want to “participate” by singing, they should have another option, as suggested in your question. Handing out playbills, escorting people to their seats, being ushers- SOMETHING, especially since their grades will be negatively impacted if they do not participate. Buying a shirt should not be mandatory. They could mandate that everyone wear a red, white or blue shirt, to symbolize USA colors, and most would already have that in their wardrobe, and this would constitute a theme as well.

  9. VegetarianGrl
    November 15, 2011 at 12:46 am

    O_o What a horrible music teacher!

  10. pracgamer
    November 15, 2011 at 1:36 am

    Unfair and very rude.

  11. SuMmEr
    November 15, 2011 at 1:39 am

    I would have a problem with this letter as well. How many 1st and 2nd graders do you know that actually like to sing and do it well? Not many. I watch the winter programs and the best part is the ‘unscripted’ things the little ones do. What kind of school gives grades in the 1st and 2nd grades? Every child should get a satisfactory just by going to class. Optional T-shirt. More like an obligation to buy a shirt. Who would want their child to be left out? No one.

  12. Holy Believer
    November 15, 2011 at 2:38 am

    Very weird. My daughter is 9 and has had a music program every year but never was she graded on it! Especially in the 1 and 2 grade. She is in 3 grade and they still don’t get graded. I do understand the music teacher telling you to ask your child if they want to do it. It does look kinda messed up if one kid is just standing there or distracting other kids. But I do agree with you in that they can do something else like helping out. BUT what I don’t understand is that if it affects their grade why would she give them an opt out?

  13. Torrejon
    November 15, 2011 at 3:17 am

    Uuuh, is SHE going to fill out a form?

    Also, you might let a copy of the letter fall into the administration’s hands. They might not be aware of how this teachers is representing the school.

  14. billie b
    November 15, 2011 at 4:16 am

    Looks to me like the teachers way of telling parents to start parenting. You see a lot of kids in music programs who aren’t paying attention, are disrupting others and so forth. Its 1st grade who cares if they get a negative grade in music? I’m sure that Harvard has a whole list of kids who didn’t qualify simply because they failed 1st grade music.

  15. mrs.tom welling
    November 15, 2011 at 4:42 am

    That letter makes no sense. The person who wrote it is being a total hypocrite. You can’t say that you don’t want them to participate and that they don’t have to, and then change it to them having a negative affect on the final grade. Makes no sense at all.

  16. Lydia
    November 15, 2011 at 5:06 am

    This is not rude at all, it’s very brave. At that age, it does just take one jerk to ruin things for everyone else. And parents often all think their kids are ‘angels’, but really, truly know that sometimes it is ‘their’ kid who is always the one who is fooling around.

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