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Hi, this letter just hit me the wrong way and I am not one to start trouble but I am seriously thinking of going to the principle with this.
Starts out saying when the Spring Show will be for 1st and 2nd grade which is at 6:30pm on a Thursday. Telling how hard the kids worked and da da da. Next paragraph word for word
“I need willing student participants for this show. I want the kids that will do their best and want to sing. If your child doesn’t want to participate, then I don’t want him or her to participate either. This may seem harsh, but it only takes one person to ruin a wonderful experience for someone else. Please ask your child if they want to participate before filling out this form . Please understand that if your child doesn’t participate in this spring show, his or her final score for music may be negatively affected.”

How fair and rude is this? I think for 1st grade some of these kids won’t have a choice wether they attend or not. It should be extra credit
also, if they do not want to sing then isn’t there more than singing that makes a show go on. Why can’t they hand out programs or help with the stage and such? My dd is singing this is not why it upset me I just think its wrong.
Also, they have an OPTION? of purchasing a $ 10 t-shirt that all of the classmates are wearing. IN THE 1ST GRADE! and they are singing 50 nifty united states by ray charles

11 Thoughts on Need your opinion on a letter sent home from school from 1st grade music teacher, to all kids in 1st and 2nd?
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    Patrick D
    October 30, 2011 at 1:18 am

    thats not right they shouldnt be affected by not participating! if i were you i would go to the principal!

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    Jake B
    October 30, 2011 at 2:01 am


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    October 30, 2011 at 2:14 am

    that’s a bit harsh saying all that stuff about how they only want dedicated people, and then saying about them getting bad marks. sounds a bit hypocritical to me.

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    October 30, 2011 at 3:05 am

    That’s not right. We’re talking about 1st and 2nd grade here not Broadway. Isn’t it the teacher’s job to help motivate and teach. This person sound like they do not want to put any extra effort into the production.

    This letter should have been an out-reach to parents to help motivate their child not to threaten negative consequences.

    My child is shy and has a problem doing things like that and has always been given small rolls in the Christmas musical but with a teacher who is not willing to try he’d fail music.

    I’d go talk to the principle. Make sure the teacher doesn’t get word of who is complaining because the personality that comes out in the letter would make me fear for retaliation against my child in the form of negative grades.

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    October 30, 2011 at 3:17 am

    She can’t have it both ways – either she wants all the children to participate or she only wants those who are keen.

    If she wants them all to participate and some won’t, it’s fair to give higher grades to those who do.

    But at the point that she’s saying she only wants kids who want to sing, then it’s totally unfair to downgrade the rest, and truly dreadful to ask parents to help her do it. What she’s saying here, in effect, is “please co-operate in helping me give kids who don’t like singing a low grade”.

    You can’t do that to a family – its not fair. What’s a conscientious mum to do – keep their child out of it because she knows he’s not a keen singer and won’t participate fully, or encourage him to go anyway because it’s going to affect his grade? I’d be extremely upset.

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    Petra M
    October 30, 2011 at 3:40 am

    That’s ridiculous! I’m actually speechless. Yes, I think you should go to the principal because something like that can potentially affect your child in a negative way. I still can’t get over the fact that the letter was addressed to parents of 1st and 2nd graders… That teacher sounds like a joker.

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    October 30, 2011 at 3:59 am


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    October 30, 2011 at 4:55 am

    Either you say you only want committed people, or you say that everyone has to participate. You don’t do BOTH.

    But at any rate, just make sure your kid knows not to goof off and sent him/her to go sign. Don’t bring it to the principal unless it becomes a recurring problem.

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    October 30, 2011 at 5:01 am

    Yes, it is rude. They’re 6 years old for crying out loud! It’s not like they’re auditioning for Summer Stock…it’s a first grade program, where moms and dads and grandparents come, take pictures, and say, “aww, how adorable!”

    Quite frankly, it’s her responsibility to get them hyped up for the show and wanting to participate. Most children of that age aren’t in it for the serious “performance” value – they want to get up on stage in their outfits and have fun.

    I would go to the principal about it…she’s asking these kids to do something that is developmentally beyond most of them, something that she needs to be guiding them in. If she can’t handle that, while it may seem harsh, she needs to teach at a different grade level.


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    angel mom
    October 30, 2011 at 5:43 am

    It is not just wanting willing participants. The thing that bothers me more than that is some kids will not be able to participate in a program on a week night after school hours for a variety of reasons….parents work schedule, etc. So an extra-curricular after school activity should not be allowed to have any reflection on their grade. And don’t even get me started on the extra cost of a special tee shirt, optional or not. Tell all of the participating kids red, white or blue shirt (to match the USA music theme you mentioned), your choice. Then they can wear something they own already or buy a $ 2 tee at Walmart.

    If you are comfortable with the teacher, you can send a note requesting a time to discuss your feelings with the teacher first. At first attempting a friendly information gathering “chat” with the teacher might solve the problem without her feeling that she has been tattle on (and trust me she will take it out on your kid, however subtlely)Then if you are still not satified with the results, have a conference with the principal, with or without the teacher present.

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    October 30, 2011 at 6:33 am

    I think you should speak with the teacher. There’s always a possibility that the letter was written hastily on a bad day and she didn’t really mean what it looks like she means. Ask her…is the concert required and counted for a grade in the class? If not, what did she mean about kids not participating receiving a lower grade. If you go in innocent and slightly confused and grateful for the clarification, you’ll probably get a reasonably positive response. Think. If YOU were the teacher and parents bypassed YOU to run to the principal, how would YOU feel??? Are YOU willing to organize the non-singers into helpers for the concert?? Can you offer to help with ANYthing for the concert?? If you really are afraid of “retaliation” then it would be better not to create a firestorm over what is basically a ‘non-issue’ for you……since your child is willing to sing…..right?? deni….;)

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