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IM a single father to my 3 kids after hte ex left about 2 yrs ago. I bought her out of the house but after time i realized that its been too hard for me to live there since there are too many memories and I still hold emotionally to the ex living there. This was her dads house too that we bought after he died. When she left I bought her out of the house so now its mine but I have it up for sale right now and I am planning on moving soon. Its been very hard but I feel like it will be the final step to finally release myself from this bad marraige. Did you keep the marital home after your spouse cheated and left? Did you sell it? How did it feel when you finally left the marital home and got another place?

6 Thoughts on Moving out of your first home after a divorce?
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    Julia
    July 14, 2011 at 5:47 am

    I missed my (our) home very much when I left.
    He stayed there and is I often wonder what it’s like for him, seeing all the paint on the walls we picked out together, all the memories he must feel each day that he is there.
    I would never have wanted to stay in our home that we built up together and remodeled and had so much fun buying, decorating, hosting parties, etc.
    So bottom line: I felt sorry to leave my home, but I wouldn’t have stayed there.

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    nomokomoyo
    July 14, 2011 at 5:52 am

    some relieved;it’s not the home,it’s the feeling u know,wherever u go,whatever u do,the toughts keeps taunting u,unless,u finally say to urself,I MOVED ON!

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    life's a journey
    July 14, 2011 at 6:26 am

    I can relate to this. I lived in the home for 10 years afterward because my kids were in school.My parents kept the roof over our heads when they shouldn’t have. They owned the property and we built on. I had to sell the home ( NY is 50/50) 7 years ago and I do miss it until this day. I wake up sometimes and think “I’m home again” then reality sets in quickly. I still have to tell myself that home is where I am now. The house was a thing and I am good in my heart. I miss the location but I do not miss the marriage.I am much healthier. Good luck to you and your children.

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    dadgonewild
    July 14, 2011 at 6:32 am

    Dude! Why would you buy her out, when divorce court could have granted you the house for free?

    My Ex wife would have taken the buy out and still try to get the house.

    But to answer your question ……. “I just wanted out” Damn that house!

    p.s. We both need to stop drinking this Vodka

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    Bubu
    July 14, 2011 at 7:29 am

    You should live in a new house. It will help you have new feeling. It will make you forget the memories with her. You are great man and father you will find a good woman someday. Good luck.

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    LeeH
    July 14, 2011 at 8:21 am

    I left. He was the one who cheated but he owned the home before me and we had a prenup. One of the hardest things about the breakup for me was how much I missed my home and life, in addition to my husband. It took me a long time to let go of the connection to my home even after I bought a new house and started over. There were years of memories, things I had built/made/decorated/planted. I missed them terribly.

    But once I got passed my grieving period it definitely got better. Without a doubt I feel that moving enabled me to detach. So did burning pictures, journals etc…stuff I never thought I would be able to let go of.

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