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Some of you have been following my story, so here is sum more. Husband moved out one week ago. We had major issues with fighting. BAD, and often. We are newlyweds btw..so he left and said we need to work on ourselves before we can work on a relationship. He is getting counseling, and looking into meds for possible bipolar disorder. I have started meds because I have a history of anxiety, and I was off meds for months which I think didn’t help our fighting. He is at his mom’s. At first, he told me not to call him, to only email which hurt me. Today though he called and asked if I would bring his son’s coat by to his Mom’s. When I got there, we had a talk in person. He said he still loves me, and you don’t just “stop loving someone”. He stressed that we need to take baby steps, and what we are doing now is “saving our marriage.” He did say he would like to see us back together IF we are healthy and he hopes it happens, but at this point, he doesn’t know. One comment he made that I liked, I had said something (can’t remember) and he said “well I can’t picture that happening” and I said, “What happening?” and he said, “Us not getting back together”. It ended with a hug, and he told me he would call me more, and I could call him. Then later tonight he called to say he received a letter (my daughter wrote him one). He told me he bought a mountain bike today to start riding, and I said that sounded fun! He then said, “well maybe that’s something we can do together.” So my QUESTION: (sorry guys) Does this sound promising to you? Am I getting my hopes up? He won’t move back in the house, and can only stay at his Mom’s 3 more weeks per landlord. I am so scared he will get his own place. I asked him not to, and to hopefully come back home by then. So what are your thoughts guys? What do I need to do, not do? Does it sound good? I want him home in 3 wks sooo bad…Help!

4 Thoughts on More about my marital issues, please advice?
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    lipstick2756
    November 11, 2011 at 7:05 am

    I think that sounds really promising but just don’t push things, let them happen naturally! Once it starts getting closer to the 3 week mark maybe get together and discuss how you can still give each other distance so you can still work on yourselves before diving back into the relationship. Maybe you can agree to go riding together 3 times a week and then those other nights you can do separate things so you still get your space! This time apart is making him miss you which is a good sign because if your marriage was over he defiantly wouldn’t be missing you or asking you to call! Hang in there!! My husband and I fought all the time when we first got married to!

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    Michael T
    November 11, 2011 at 7:29 am

    It would be nice if you could work on your problems together. Maybe you could read something on anger management to help with your fights.You could read them together and work together.

    As for whether or not he will get his own place. Now that you are talking more you should just ask him what his intentions are.

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    fullofjoy08
    November 11, 2011 at 7:37 am

    I does sound promising. However respect his wanting to heal before the two of you get back together. Baby steps are definitely in order for this situation.

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    prairieprincess
    November 11, 2011 at 7:47 am

    It sounds like he is missing you. Just keep taking it slow, and it sounds like you guys are going to make it.

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