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My wife and i are in our mid 40’s, we have spent our entire life working and it seems like we work just so we can go to work. We have spent the last 18 years working at thankless jobs that don’t give us any feeling of satisfaction (we have both been at the same job for the entire 18 years). We paid all of our debt down to nothing more than a house payment of $ 500 (plus your normal utilities). We have 3 cars, all paid off, NO credit card debt of any kind and NO loans of any kind other than the mortgage we mentioned. We make good money but have no life to speak of…we do NOT drink, smoke or do drugs of any kind, we do NOT go out and party…we just work. We have gotten to a point in our lives where we just want to live a little…some people say were just having a mid-life crisis…we don’t know what to think. We have credit scores well above 820. We have saved over $ 170,000.00 and were thinking about quitting our jobs and retiring for 1 year, just so we can travel and vacation and enjoy our lives before were too old to do so. We have NO kids either. We have great work ethics and good backgrounds in everything from basic office work to upper management. Were assuming we’ll be able to find work when we come back from our mini retirement. Please think carefully about your answer and let us know your age and what you think we should do. We read the poem below and its really making us wonder what to do:

First I was dying to finish my high school and start college

And then i was dying to finish college and start working

Then I was dying to get married and have children

And then I was dying for my children to grow old enough so I could go back to work

But then I was dying to retire

And now I’m just dying….and I realised I forgot to live.

Thanks for your time.
This additional info is for the person named “Peace” who answered our question: The jobs were at are not jobs we would ever want to return to. Even if we dont quit for a year, we would definitely like to do something different for a living than what were doing now. We just dont want to leave these jobs and go directly into other jobs without taking some time for “us”. We know we need time for us and just us, were just not sure how to go about it, when to do it and where to go while we do it…and thats if we “should” do it.

3 Thoughts on Midlife crisis? Just wanting to live a little? Help!?
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    Aurora Anthony
    November 11, 2011 at 4:40 am

    I’m in my late forties and left a good job and pension due to domestic violence (I was the victim). I did retail work for two years after that and now I’m a college student (again). I’m single, praying for companionship for the future, children are adults, live with family…and your idea of travel sounds wonderful. I’m just afraid because of your age that you’ll have difficulties getting back into the job market. I left out of urgency. I’m a Christian so you know where I’m going with this, right? Pray about it and if you feel it in your heart, then jump. Never live in fear.

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    November 11, 2011 at 5:34 am

    170k? buy a pair of motorcyles and ride around the country. make sure you know how to ride before you go though.

    motorcyle=midlife crisis destroyer

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    November 11, 2011 at 5:42 am

    I am 51. A year ago when I was about to turn 50 I decided to have a mid life rebellion!! I quit my job at the library that had been satisfying at one time but now, due to budget cuts & because of a hiring freeze I was overworked and disgruntled. I was dealing with health issues and thought the time was right to take care of me for a while. I planned to return to work rejuvenated in one year.

    One year later. I have an empty nest and can’t think of a job I would rather have than the one I left. They don’t rehire. I found that I needed the job more than I thought I did. I am on the reclusive side and have lost contact with people that were important to me. I have more stress. Life goes on and instead of a time that I controlled and managed, new things took the place of my job to deplete my energy & enthusiasm. I lost my momentum. I realized not long ago that I didn’t do one thing that could be considered rebellion except losing the job, so I became a redhead & somehow that is helping me get back on track. Don’t know what is next.

    I say take a long vacation to a place you have dreamed of going to. Use that time to unwind and consider all possibilities. You could move to another location for the weather. Volunteer, learn a new trade, start a business or charity. It is your life and it can be whatever you want it to be. I believe that and I am trying to figure it out, if my health would just cooperate.

    Good luck.

    EDIT: We did get a motorcycle. We live in the smoky mountains and love to go scenic touring. Like the person above said, know how to ride before you buy a bike. It is a good way to make your current life less tedious.

    You can come to Tennessee!!! Everyone else is. it is beautiful now, ahhhh… That is one thing that is right in my life!!

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