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It is this 40 year old woman I met on yourube. She has Asperger’s Syndrome as I do, for the last 2 months, I sent e-mails and text messages. She sent me 10 text messages a day. I currently live in the Los Angeles and lives in Portland, OR.Ich am only 28 years old, please ask me when I’m in Portland, OR next to him besuchen.Derzeit I am unemployed, I since May 2008. She has since July 2008 arbeitslos.Derzeit I live at home with my parents. The woman lives alone. She said if I come to Portland and we have to understand us, they can give me their couch in the living room to life and I was not charged. She wants me out of my Elternhaus.Es are some things I dislike about them. She stopped going to school after the 8th Grade. At age 15 she married and had a child. At age 17 she had another child. She did not raise their children. Her grandmother and Vater.Auch when uncultivated, it is able to provide a stable history haben.Sie EMPLOYMENT repossesment Mrryll Lynch worked for 4 years at home, she worked in this position in a call center and 3,300 $ per month and lost health insurance to do. Their task was to callers with their payments delinquints home. She had the people with their payments deliquint fax control your bank statements, credit card bills and auto loans. If she believes that people would not be able to pay their mortgage payments they had the house itself weggenommen.Ich College and earned a BA in 5 years ago. Because of my visual disability employers descriminated against me. The only jobs I’ve had are Arbeitsplätze.Klingt detail as a game good or bad? I’ve never had a girlfriend before because of my disability sichtbar.Diese sounds very tolerant woman and the feeling that my differences do not think parents belästigen.Meine is a stupid idea, hook with a woman 12 years older than me. My disabilities are mild tourettes, PC mild Asperger’s syndrome and a Lernbehinderung.Ich been driving my own car for 11 Jahre.Ich never left my parents, the woman returns to the syndrome Asperger. She speaks in a monotone? This is a nice and caring parents, I do not think Person.Meine Portland.Sie move, I’m a fool to my friends.

13 Thoughts on Is it surprising that it is 40 near 41 year old woman in a man of 28 who has a disability, interested?
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    snickers
    May 2, 2011 at 4:12 am

    its not wierd if shes retarded

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    micki
    May 2, 2011 at 4:52 am

    Well you stated that this lady had quite a few bad qualities, or has made bad decisions.
    Would you look past this?
    Perhaps you can meet up, but don’t jump into anything.
    Think it through carefully. and dont make any rash decisions
    If you do plan to move in with her wait until you are both fairly stable.

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    LoveIsDead-TokioHotel
    May 2, 2011 at 4:59 am

    If you think that it’s wierd then don’t go after her, never do something if it makes you uncomfortable. If you are not sure about something take your time and weigh the pros and cons. I think that you should do a little more research on her because you never know if she could be completely for real. There will always be a person who likes you for who you are, you have barely lived your life and she’s lived it longer. If she’s not right for you, there will always be more fish in the sea, I’m sure you will find someone eventually who likes you for you.

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    Sophie B
    May 2, 2011 at 5:34 am

    I would say that this woman , (or someone connected to her) is intending to take advantage of you……

    I would not get further involved with her, if I were you…

    However, you should probably get out and socialize more..locally….

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    Georgie
    May 2, 2011 at 6:31 am

    You need to be so very careful, for what purpose does she want you to move in with her, especially as you both have no employment, I assume you have some sort of SSI payment, which could be easily taken off you if you move in with her.

    Her wanting to get you out of your parents home is not enough, of a reason for you to leave your home, you are currently in a safe caring environment, with people who love and care for you, who will protect you and support you.

    You are only going what this woman is telling you, and you have no way of knowing if she is genuine, or if what she has told is true. Everything she has told may well be true, just as it may well be she is trying to take advantage of you.

    If you were to go and live her you need to spend a short period of time with her, to see what her home is like, met her family, friends etc, if you feel uncomfortable or wary then follow your intuition and don’t go to live her. Ideally you should not sleep in her home the first time you met her, for you own well being.

    I am highly suspicious of anyone who wants someone to move in with them, and for “no charge”, her living room is not a bedroom, and a couch is not always comfortable, as for not charging you anything, what does she want in return then?

    I am sorry for being cynical, but I work with young people with disabilities, many of whom have been taken advantage of, used and dreadfully abused (physically, sexually etc).

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    chiliswoman
    May 2, 2011 at 6:48 am

    NEVER move in with anyone you do not know from just chatting online. You must meet them and spend some time with them first. Go visit for 2 weeks and see if you can still stand each other. You need to be sure you feel comfortable living in HER house and whether it feels welcoming or not. You need to be sure she HAS a couch for you to sleep on – and that it gives you enough privacy. You need to be sure that your lifestyle and idiosyncracies are compatible.

    You are not marrying this woman, so her life history really is to business of yours. You are intending to be roommates – so see if that works.

    I am in a ten year relationship with a man who is 9 years younger than me – it works for us!

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    aaron_n_az
    May 2, 2011 at 7:19 am

    There’s no harm in meeting her, right? Whether it’s you traveling to meet her, or her traveling to meet you, you’re just meeting and feeling each other out. Given all of the things going on, I would say it’s wise to meet face to face many times to see if there’s even a possibility of a relationship of any kind. As far as the age difference? I’d say that’s not even an issue really. 41 to 28 you’re not crossing over any huge generational boundaries.

    Good luck!

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    cesare214
    May 2, 2011 at 7:20 am

    You will do what you want to do but …….I would really think about this. If she has money have her come to see you. You need to see what she is really like . Be careful!

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    isotope2007
    May 2, 2011 at 7:22 am

    She offered you the living room couch and stated that her interest is in helping you move out of your parents home and be more independent and you think she is hot for you?

    I dont think she is interested in you at all as a romantic partner, I think YOU are the one who is being weird, and I think you better come clean with her as to what YOUR intentions are because it sure sounds as if hers are NOT romantic, she is trying to help a disabled person, that would be you, and offering you friendship and a place to stay —

    Why would she want a relationship with a disabled person young enough to be her son? No offense intended, but disability is a challenge in a relationship, and someone almost HALF her age on top of that? Someone she would have to support?

    I dont think so.

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    Frou Frou
    May 2, 2011 at 7:26 am

    as you know aspies tend to not adhere to social norms, it seems teh age barrier is one of those social norms she doesnt adher to

    its not “weird” per say
    2 people meeing and talkign and enjoying each others company is oen of the most natural things we humans do, but in society its deemed “weird” to date soemone much older than you, and its more directed at older woman dating younger men, so its also sexist

    HOWEVER
    i do NOT sugest you move in together yet, it iis FAR too early, you HAV to get to know each other first, or it will not work out,

    both of you havign aspergers is going to really affect your reliationshiop and lives, so you have to be able to know you will work together and can learn to work together before you do that

    your parents are just lookign out for you, they love you and dont want to see you hurt or anything like that

    there are things we wil always not liek about our partners, my boyfs an asperger, adn there are things we dont liek about eachother
    but that doesnt stop us being able to l;ove each other, live together and have a great 9 year relationship

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    CEEES
    May 2, 2011 at 7:30 am

    Usually your first impression is the right one! Go with how you feel.

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    17hunter
    May 2, 2011 at 7:52 am

    From what you have written it seems like she wants you to visit and then, if it works out, she will offer you the sofa. You share the same disability. I’m going to be blunt here. She is everything that you are not. She is used to talking to people, making judgments, and getting paid for it. She has made a judgment here, and she is making an offer to help you. She is trying to get you out of your parents house so that you will begin to see what life is about. I think she is operating out of compassion and empathy. Probably she has broken free of what is bothering you now and thinks she can help. Your parents have a problem or they would be getting you out of the house by now. Obviously your parent’s house is not the environment you need for success. If you were my kid I’d be driving you up there myself. You are 28 years old, and it should not be described as, “I’m only 28 years old.” I can just about guarantee you that is coming from your parent’s attitudes and conversations. You’ve never had a girlfriend and you are imagining some stuff that is not there. This woman wants to help you get an independent life. I think you need to hang out with someone like her who has learned to cope and be accepted in spite of her disability. You are 28 years old. You don’t need your parent’s permission to go to Portland. Or maybe I am just wrong and it is more like misery loves company. Either way I think it would be good for you to pack a bag and head to Portland. Stop trying to figure it all out and just go. Day by day.

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    purplebell
    May 2, 2011 at 8:08 am

    The one thing that worries me is she has said she MAY offer the couch not a bed. Which would mean you do not have your own room or personal space to retreat to when you want some peace & quiet time. Where would you keep your belongings. She may have had a stable job but she is older than you. & why does she want you to move out from your parents place. It sounds a bit weird to me that she wants you to move out of home where you have your own room to a house where you get a couch. My advice would be to stay at home where you have people that love you. You have friends where you are if you move you have to make new friends. Alot of ” normal ” people are staying at home longer well into their 20s so why shouldn’t you. I have a intellectually impaired daughter that has told me she will never move out of home. We are looking at the long term & have decided we are happy for her to stay at home & if need be will find a place with a granny flat so she can have some freedom but will still be close to us. This may be something you could talk to your parents about if you decide you would like more space but don’t want to go to far. You have already admitted to a few things you don’t like about her how many more would you find if you move in with her. & once you move in with her how hard would it be to find a place & move out if things don’t work will your parents let you move back.

    Put all the disabilities aside for a minute & have a think as to why she would want a younger male to move in with her. She had a child that someone else raised maybe she is looking for someone to replace them. She is getting older & maybe getting lonely. Surely you will be able to find a girl closer to your own age. Have you ever thought about having kids is she someone you could do that with. Yes-No????

    Think long term where do you want to be in another 10 years.

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