I’m 21, my bf is 23, been together 7 years. We are good people who work hard, pay our own bills, go to school, and we dont mind that we still live at home with our parents since it is expensive out there. We would love to get married after I finish school and start a family soon after. We know it takes hard work and money which is why we are saving up the best we can. Here is the crappy part…yesterday my bf’s younger brother who is 20 comes home and announces he is moving out with his girlfriend of 6 months into an apartment (that’s too soon if you ask me). His older (25 year old) gf makes good money as a manager at Best Buy and pays for EVERYTHING for him. She is an okay person, but I think she does little to encourage him to spend time with his family and work hard for himself. Not to mention, he also works at Best Buy and she is transferring to his store as a manager which could be trouble due to conflict of interest/subordination. His brother is in debt, very irresponsible with money/finances, and is obviously loving that his gf is paying for all of this. I think my BF is upset because he is the eldest in the family and envisioned himself as being the first to move out and start a life of his own. My bf works so hard to pay bills and put his family first and its hard for him to see his lazy brother ride on someone else’s coat tails and move out without a problem. I feel so bad for him…he is such a good and responsible person. Does anyone have suggestions on how I can encourage him and let him know his hard work will pay off over his brother’s hasty decision? Also, has anyone seen the outcome of a couple who moves in together that fast, esp if it’s a “sugar mama” type of relationship?