Sorry this is so long. Me and my partner Sean have a 2 and a half year old and we both work in separate restaurants but for the same company. We were both managers before We had Aidan, then I demoted myself to a waitress coz the money was better, could choose my hours and the responsiblilty would have been to much. I tried going back to management but it was too much. Sean has a lot of debts from before we got together but will be paid off this summer so Im a working mum till then. We leave my son with 3 different family members(I work 3/4 days a weeks, 12+ hour shifts). One has just got sick and wont be able to look after our son for at least 6 months, another has gone on holiday for a month so all I have now is my mum who works full time as well. We’ve just been moving house as well. My problem is that Sean doesn’t seem to have any of these worries as he’s always at work and when he’s off and i ask him to help out he has an excuse or has to go into work coz somethings come up. We’re loosing part of our deposit from the house because he “didn’t have time” to pick the carpet cleaning machine from his parents house so i could clean the carpets. I dont drive so couldn’t do it myself. I packed everything, did all the heavy lifting, sorted out a removal van, moved everything into the new house dropped the keys back, signed the papers all with a two year old in tow and no car! I’ve had to take time off work when I’ve had no one to look after my son and loose out on tips and wage. Im worried with the credit crunch and everything they’re gonna start cutting my hours coz I keep letting them down. He’s the boss at his restaurant and could take time off when he likes and he’s on a salary so wouldn’t loose any money. I know he works hard and its his job but my son and I are suffering because of it. I’ve done his job before and know it doesn’t have to be that hard. I would put my foot down a tell them to just cope coz I had to go get my baby. They were pissed at first but understood. It seems to me he’s making it hard for himself. When I say this he just says “what do you want me to do, its my restaurant, I cant just leave them in the lurch”! Am I being too hard on him expecting more help or am I right? If so what should I do about it?