What can child support be used on?
My girlfriend and I split up because of my aggressive attitude towards her and the kids. She has 2 kids of her own and we have 1 together. I am new to fatherhood and so there is a lot of stress on me for trying to be a father to these kids. I’ve done my best after almost 2 years but I’ve become very angry and emotionally abusive to everyone in the house.

I turned to video games as an outlet to relieve stress but every time I get interrupted by the kids or her I snap at them. I even hit my 1 year old really hard. That’s what made her leave, she couldn’t take it anymore and me hitting our child pushed her over the edge.

I realize I have a problem and so I’ve self enrolled in a 12 week anger management program and couples counseling to help myself before I become a lost cause and I lose the ones that I love forever.

I live in California and I have a steady job. She is a full time student, but she receives some financial aid and SSI for a disability. I earn 3/4 of the income in the household.

Between all her debts that she racked up BEFORE she met me, I’ve paid out of my own pocket at LEAST $ 20,000 of it off and we’re still on a 3 year plan for her to be debt free. My credit is immaculate while hers is messed up but steadily inclining.

My question is this: If she and I don’t get back together, can she use child support money to fund her debt repayment? Yeah, I’m sure she can say she’s using her own money that she gets to pay for it, but I’m pretty damn sure she’ll use the child support money towards it.

Would I be able to convince a judge that I’d like to be exempt from paying the state of California child support BUT I will provide EVERYTHING for my child so that I know the money is being used for him and only him using receipts to track the spending? I’ve seen it to many times where the mother would use child support money for herself and not the child.

SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY.

No, I’m not a bad person for the things I’ve done. I just happened to do bad things. A bad person wouldn’t seek help and try to better themselves as they tend to be selfish. I have a problem. I need help.

Thanks for your time.